"And she thought, but didn't say, what a perilous commodity love was and that the proper calibration of its giving and taking was too precise by far for mere humans."

Got this quote from the Horse Whisperer.. it's so darn true isn't it. I feel the same thing applies to dependence...
A relationship can only be successful with a fine balance between needing someone, and at the same time, having a degree of independence from him/her. TuT~